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About theartofleaving

Former devotee and member of The Art of Living organization reflecting on the process of joining and leaving cults, abusive relationships, and sundry obsessions. Trying to draw the line by connecting the dots.

Enlightenment, Service, Celebration

Art of Living was an easy thing to slip into for me, as I was raised with a lot of eastern spirituality in and around my family. The problem, as I see it, is that Art of Living says one … Continue reading

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Whole, Human, Healing

The process right now seems to be one of reclaiming all those ever-so-human parts of myself that Art of Living subtly urged me to deny, purge, or breathe away. Most prominent in the last couple of weeks, once the morbidity … Continue reading

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When It Gets Worse

“Of comfort no man speak. Let’s talk of graves, of worms and epitaphs; Make dust our paper and with rainy eyes Write sorrow  on the bosom of the earth.” Richard II (III.ii.144-7) My thoughts get darker. I dwell on death, … Continue reading

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Scenes from Hamlet

Most people who take the AoL course learn some “knowledge points” which are a mix of common sense and over-generalization, do some hyperventilating, make long and embarrassing eye contact with a stranger or two and then go their merry way … Continue reading

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(Our Good Doctor told me I ought to share this on the front page. Some musings from the last comment thread. Doctor’s orders.) My mother has told me stories of when she was in her guru group, how she and … Continue reading

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Neverland, Transcendent Nipples and Bitches I Didn’t Punch

Saturday afternoon we three merry travelers piled in the car for a weekend adventure to the colorful and many-angled Bilbao. It was my first time in Spain! And that very night we cheered as Barcelona triumphed over Manchester United in … Continue reading

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What if there is no afterlife?

My thoughts exactly, Hobbes.

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Dammit Jim, I’m a Doctor not a Theologist!

In the comments thread of “Fairytale” our good Doctor posed some questions that I thought would be better addressed in a full post. I’ll quote his questions in italics, then respond to them below. Of course, I can’t “answer” them, … Continue reading

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Well. It’s just over a month since I officially Left, and I feel lots of conflicting and confusing things now, but not one single time have I felt I made the wrong choice. I am more certain than ever that … Continue reading

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One night as I lay not knowing why I wept I plunged my left hand into my chest and removed one of my ribs. This I fashioned in the image of a man, a man with long hair and wondrous … Continue reading

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